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THE PROPOSE DAY

You got me sipping on something ,I can’t compare to nothing
I’ve ever known, I’m hoping ,That after this fever I’ll survive
I know I’m acting a bit crazy ,Strung out, a little bit hazy
Hand over heart, I’m praying ,That I’m gonna make it out alive…

images (8)The bed’s getting cold and you’re not here
the future that we hold is so unclear
But I’m not alive until you call
and I’ll bet the odds against it all…

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As you got up this morning, I watched you, and hoped you would talk to me,Even if just a few words, asking my opinion or thanking me for something good That happened in your life yesterday. But you were too busy, trying to find the right outfit to wear.

When you ran around the house getting ready, I knew there would be few minutes for you to stop and say hello, but you were too busy to do so. At one point for 15 minutes you had nothing to do, you ran to the phone and called a friend to get the latest gossip.

I noticed that before lunch you looked around, and I thought maybe you felt embarrassed to talk to me, that is why you didn’t bow your head. You glanced three or four tables over and you noticed some of your friends talking to me briefly before they ate, but you didn’t. But there is still more time left, and I hope that you will talk to me yet.

You went home and after a few chores you turned on the television set. I waited patiently again as you watched TV and ate your meal, but again you didn’t talk to me. Bedtime I guess you felt too tired. After you said goodnight to your family you got into bed and promptly fell asleep.

You know, I have got patience, more than you will ever know. I love you so much that I wait every day for a nod, prayer or a thought. It is hard to have a one sided conversation. Well, you are getting up once again. And once again I will wait, with nothing but love for you. Hoping that today you will give me some time. Have a nice day!

   © VITASTA GANJOO

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Victimism- playing a self- vitim

I used to be a fan of Hrithik Roshan. But now it’s just disgusting. Recently I have been/seen a lot changes around me ..in number of situations ..in number of people.. since a number of months..be it personally… Realizing the reality or truth or socially…be it the death of children in hospital .. playing with lives of innocent people due to dirty political agendas or the fake robbery of Kim Kardashian ….or Kanye stealing the thunder of Taylor swift and ganging up celebs against her or the fakeass dera and it’s hollow king n blind followers ..with a moronic movie and chanting”Ram Rahim”. Or the absurd people behind the blue whale crap. And how can I forget to mention the triumph of America with it’s elections.

All I see is a pattern of personalities around the world…there’s this sudden popping of these “jokers playing their games” so much that it’s affecting a whole lot of population n lives. They all have one thing in common- they play the innocent victim first but are internally planning some of the most ridiculous stuff n tormenting people around them because of their insecurities, inability to work out things straight n genuinely.


Victims of abuse and manipulation often get trapped into a self-image of victimisation. The psychological profile of victimisation includes a pervasive sense of helplessness, passivity, loss of control, pessimism, negative thinking, strong feelings of guilt, shame, self-blame and depression. This way of thinking can lead to hopelessness and despair.
Since victim mentality is primarily a reaction to one’s experiences and not inborn, it is possible to change it which may be provoked by an extraordinary situation or crisis. Since recognizing naive and condescending suggestions is a general characteristic feature of victim mentality, a person with victim mentality will generally not respond positively to attempts by another person to wrongly identify the problem and its solution. For this reason, the condition may become chronic.
People with victim mentality may develop convincing and sophisticated explanations in support of such ideas, which they then use to explain to themselves and others of their situation.

People with victim mentality may also be generally:

-realist, with a general tendency to realistically perceive a situation.

-introspective

-defensive: In conversation, reading a negative intention into a neutral question and reacting with a corresponding accusation, hindering the collective solution of problems by recognizing the inherent conflict.
In the most general sense, a victim is anyone who experiences injury, loss, or misfortune as a result of some event or series of events. This negative experience, however, is insufficient for the emergence of a sense of victimhood.

It has been suggested that individuals define themselves as a victim if they believe that:

they were harmed;

they were not the cause of the occurrence of the harmful act;

they were under no obligation to prevent the harm;

the harm constituted an injustice in that it violated their rights (if inflicted by a person) and/or in that they possessed qualities (e.g., strength or goodness of character) making them persons whom that harm did not befit;

they deserve empathy.

The desire of empathy is crucial in that the mere experience of a harmful event is not enough for the emergence of the sense of being a victim. In order to have this sense, there is the need to perceive the harm as undeserved, unjust and immoral, an act that could not be prevented by the victim. The need to obtain empathy and understanding can then emerge.

To be continued….

*Will continue in next post soon*